Have you ever found yourself in a situation where one minute you feel OK then someone says something or does something that instantaneously ignites a rage within you or even just a frustration you can’t contain? Maybe you are in your car and someone cuts you off. You react with nothing short of utter ferociousness. Expletive here and expletive there. You simply cannot help yourself. This is a very crude example of you losing your emotional resilience. It is the degree to which you can experience something “negative” and not let your mood dip. It is the ability to stay in a helpful mood even in the face of adversity.
Unhelpful v Helpful moods
It is not uncommon for people to fall into unhelpful moods when things don’t quite go their way. The train’s late, they get your order wrong, someone is rude to you. The list of things that you can react to is endless. However, by dropping into unhelpful moods, you ultimately only hurt one person, and that is yourself.
If we go back to the experience of being cut off by another car, we can see that by losing your temper or getting frustrated you have become unhelpful to yourself. The likelihood is that that mood will be taken into your daily work. How might that impact the office? Your team? Your work? Your clients?
The person that cut you off is long gone, yet the reaction you had is casting its shadow throughout your day.
It will limit your capabilities
There are many studies that demonstrate when you fall into these unhelpful moods you lose creativity, strategic decision making and patience. All key elements to leading a team. Your decisions become short sighted and often more self orientated rather than focused on the business and team. It also hinders your ability to empathise with others. So if you walk into a sales meeting follow one of these altercations, you will struggle to connect with your prospect. Ultimately making the sale that much harder.
Your mood and your ability to hold it steady is an absolute key element of running a successful business.
One of the key things to realise about your mood is just that, YOUR mood. You have the power to control it. Blaming it on someone else or an external situation, whatever it may be is completely counterproductive to you and your business. By carrying negative, unhelpful thoughts around you really are opening yourself up to the possibility that your decisions will be, well, poor and shortsighted.
The relentless stresses of running your business
The reason this is so important for business owners to understand, is not just because of the effect it will have on your business, it is also because you are more susceptible to it happening. This is because as a business owner or leader you have a relentless amount of things to think about and react to. These can vary massively, day to day. Having strong emotional resilience is essential to ensuring you stay at your best more of the time.
If you could live in a world where you stay creative, empathetic, strategic, open and focused all of the time, wouldn’t you want to live there? Well there are many scientifically proven ways you can develop and strengthen your emotional resilience. In next weeks blog I will show you how you can master your emotional resilience to give yourself the best chance of success.