Throughout our working day or working week we express many different forms of emotion. It is believed that some are more helpful than others. If you are happy and content your team will feel safe and motivated to get their work done. If you are focused your team will respond. If you are stressed it could have negative effects on your business. However, it is time that these negative and positive splits were challenged. The truth is all emotions can help us grow and improve. Many of the emotions that we often term as negative can offer insights that no other emotional state can. None more so than fear. It is through an awareness and observation of this emotion we can learn much about ourselves and where we can improve.
Fear is one of the most, if not the most, basic and ancient emotions. It has been hardwired into us in order to keep us safe and alive. Evolution has selected it as a key survival tool. However, whereas in the past we had predators to be wary of, in the modern age we have very little to truly fear in terms of surviving. Although this is true it persists throughout our lives. We have fears that can range from a fear of spiders to a fear of being successful. They are usually learnt from childhood, although there are exceptions. Something back when we were children has instilled a sense of fear around certain things in our life. When we experience fear it is our childhood self that is coming back to take control. This is not our true self. When we feel fear or recognise it in our self this provides the opportunity to analyse that fear. Some key questions may be – what do I fear? What is it about it exactly that I fear? Where does that come from? What happened in my past that may have created this fear? By delving a little deeper and understanding your fear this allows you to take action.
Once you understand your fears a little better it is time to do something about it. Firstly, it is essential to realise that as a child everything in your world was about you. So if your parent was stressed, you may have interpreted that as you not being good enough. This insight will help you analyse that fear. Think back to what exactly it is within you that generated this fear or belief. So for example, you may feel you are not good enough because your father was shouting at you a lot. As a child this stress will have been interpreted as all your fault and thereby somehow you are not good enough. However, as an adult you know that your father was under a lot of pressure at work, had financial worries to think about and was struggling to keep the household in order. He was stressed and expressed it in the only way he knew how.
Examining your childhood like this and offering a more adult perspective on your experience can alter the story you tell yourself. It will take time and the first step is recognising that through your fear your true self is looking to break free. Fear can be a major hindrance in your life if you are unaware of it. However, if you can become aware of it and observe your fear it can be the greatest teacher of all.