So in last weeks blog I discussed the idea of limiting beliefs and where they come from. They are relics from your childhood that persist way into adulthood, sometimes your entire life. The reasons they are limiting is because they blinker you to the real options available to you in any situation. This can have drastic effects on the outcomes you experience. If you have fixed ideas about making money or how people “should” work then you are shutting down yourself to so many different options and experiences. So how can you identify these beliefs and what can you do about them? This blog is here to help you identify your limiting beliefs and give you a method for changing them to help open yourself up to different opportunities.
You can identify your limiting beliefs by first looking at the areas of your life where you are not producing the results you want. Examining those areas what do you say to yourself? For example, if you think about selling and your internal voice says “Oh, I am no good at that” or in terms of marketing maybe you hear yourself saying “I just don’t know how to craft the right words to make my product look incredible.” These are limiting beliefs. To you they may seem as real as the air we breathe, you can probably even produce a pile of evidence that proves they exists. However, they really are limiting your opportunities.
Limiting beliefs can sit so deep that you will find them very difficult to identify. The way to counteract this is to look for negative emotions around anything. For example, when you think about finances do you feel Anxious? Angry? Hopeless? These are indicators that you have limiting beliefs in this area. Feeling anxiety could mean you are worried about what others may think about you, anger could be you saying life just isn’t fair to me and Hopelessness could be an indicator you are not confident enough in your ability to deal with the situation. It is through these negative emotions that you can gain insight into your deepest limiting beliefs.
The thing about beliefs is that they feel like they are based on your experience. I just can’t write well, therefore I am no good. When in fact it is because you think you don’t write well that produces that outcome. It is your belief that informs your actions. Not the other way around. This insight leads to one powerful truth, if you can change your beliefs, you will change your outcomes. But how do you go about changing your beliefs? Here is a method for changing your stories and improving your outcomes.
Identify the areas
First step is to identify the areas in which you can see you have outcomes you don’t want. Remember to look anywhere you experience negative emotions. Write these out as a list.
2. Write out the beliefs in each area
Take each area one at a time and write out all the beliefs you have around it. Do not think too much during this process, just write, almost like a stream of consciousness. Doing it this way will allow your beliefs to come out more naturally.
3. Change the story
Once you have done this for each area, read over them and start changing the beliefs. For example, in place of “I am worried about what people think about my financial situation” put “my financial position is no reflection on me as a person. I am responsible for it and have the power to create anything I need.” The change needs to be from limiting your experience to opening yourself up to things.
4. Read to yourself
Now you have all your new beliefs in place, you have to make them stick. Take the time every single day to read those beliefs back to yourself, even say them out loud. The more you do this the more you will feel them coming true. It will alter your perspective and open you up to new experiences and allow you to achieve more desirable outcomes.
Now go forth and change your stories to create a better life for you. We would love to know how you get on.